Weddings

Getting married at St Michael’s

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13.4-7

We are really delighted that you are thinking about getting married in church and have come to St Michael’s. This information has been produced to help you with your planning and to complete all the necessary arrangements.

New Rules

The Church of England has been considering for some time possible alternatives to the calling of banns and widening the choice of places in which couples can marry. In July 2007, the General Synod overwhelmingly passed the Church of England Marriage Measure and it received the Royal Assent on 22nd May. The Archbishops have now signed an instrument bringing all the provisions of the Measure into force from 1st October 2008.

This means that you can be married in St Michael’s if:

  • You currently live in the parish
  • You have, at any time, lived in the parish for at least 6 months
  • You have been a regular member of the church for at least 6 months;
  • You were baptised in the parish.
  • Your confirmation was registered here
  • You have a parent that has at any time during your lifetime lived in the parish for at least 6 months
  • You have a parent that has at any time during your lifetime been a regular member of the church for at least 6 or
  • You have a parent or grandparent that was married in the parish.

Booking the day

You can be married on any day except Sundays and public holidays. Simply e-mail, phone or write to the Rector.  He will then send you an application form (or you can download one from here which you can send in).

Your wedding is not formally booked until you return the application form duly signed by both of you and it has all been agreed.  We cannot say at this stage who will be conducting the service.

BANNS
The legal preliminary for a wedding service in church is normally the publication of something called ‘banns’, over three consecutive Sundays in the parish church or churches where you both live.  Basically this means that we read out your names in our main service to make sure that there are no legal reasons for you not to be married…  If you both live in our parish, then your banns are simply called here, at St Michel’s.  However, if one of you lives outside our parish, then you need to arrange for your banns to be called in the parish church where you live. You must do this at least four weeks before you are married: six months would be safer! Once your banns are called, the vicar or rector there will provide you with a certificate, which will be needed for the service: this costs £30. If you are on the Electoral Roll of a parish other than where you live, you still need to arrange for the banns to be called in your resident parish.  Click here to download a banns form.

ORDER OF SERVICE
We use the marriage service from Common Worship, unless you specifically request otherwise.  You can access this on www.cofe.anglican.org/commonworship and we have outlined a normal service below.

Are you having a special leaflet printed? Or will you use our hymn books? If you are having your Order of Service printed privately, please send a draft to the Rector in good time.  For the service you will need to choose some hymns, normally two or three.  Again the Rector may help you choose hymns that are suitable for the occasion.

You also need to decide which music will be played at other points during the service.

You may wish to ask a friend to read the lessons from the Bible, which you yourself may choose from these passages:

  • Romans 12.1,2,9-13
  • Romans 15.1-3,5-7,13
  • 1 Corinthians 13
  • Ephesians 3.14-end
  • Ephesians 4.1-6
  • Ephesians 5.21-end
  • Philippians 4.4-9
  • Colossians 3.12-171
  • John 3.18-end
  • 1 John 4.7-12
  • Matthew 7.21,24-end
  • Mark 10.6-9,13-16
  • John 2.1-11
  • John 15.1-8
  • John 15.9-17

Here is a typical outline of a Wedding service:

  • Introduction
  • The Welcome
  • The Declarations

N, will you take N to be your wife? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and protect her, and, forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live? He answers: I will.
N, will you take N to be your husband? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and protect him, and, forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live? She answers: I will.

  • The Marriage
  • The Vows

I, N, take you, N, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; according to God’s holy law. In the presence of God I make this vow.
I, N, take you, N, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; according to God’s holy law. In the presence of God I make this vow.

  • The Giving of Rings

N, I give you this ring as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you, within the love of God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. I
N, I give you this ring as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you, within the love of God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
N, I receive this ring as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you, within the love of God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

  • The Proclamation
  • The Collect
  • Readings
  • Sermon
  • Prayers
  • The Blessing of the Marriage
  • Registration of the Marriage
  • The Dismissal

FLOWERS
There are always flowers in church but you may wish to add some of your own.  You may remove any of your own display of flowers in church for the reception, except those on the Communion table.

PREPARATION
Marriage is a very serious step and we would like to do all we can to help you prepare for a lifelong, happy marriage.  We therefore aim to see each couple separately to talk about what it means to be married, normally three months before the wedding itself. Please phone the Rector to arrange this meeting.   We also invite all couples to a special wedding preparation morning where we go through some practicalities and also talk about how to make marriage the best it can be.  Most couples also have a simple rehearsal the evening before the wedding.

COSTS
These are revised annually in January. Click here for the latest costs…

PHOTOGRAPHS
We are very happy for you to have a photographer/video operator at the service to record the happy occasion but please note: They must be unobtrusive as we don’t want anything to distract from the marriage itself; No flash photography or additional artificial lighting is allowed during the service

If it is raining, we are happy for you to spend half an hour in church taking photographs after the service.

FINALLY
We wish you every happiness in your life together and pray that God will bless you both in the years ahead. If there is anything we can do to help, either now or in the future, please contact us.


Water

As a church we are keen to connect with others around the world who are meeting needs and changing lives.  We support Tearfund - an agency that works to alleviate poverty.  Check out this latest campaign about water. Read more


Doughnuts

New Service Times

Since January we have been trying out a whole new way of organising our services on Sunday mornings.  We are really excited about these new changes. if you want to find out more about all this, then click here.

From now on (except for the first Sunday of the month) the gatherings will begin with 45mins of worship (readings, prayers, songs, stillness, visuals, meditations, breaking bread etc) followed by a 'Doughnut Break' for about 30mins, followed by a time of learning together (the 'talky bit'). (see podcasts)

cupOn the first Sunday of every month we have what we have called 'Sunday Live!' (I think after a Saturday morning TV show some years back).  Regardless of the name, we will increasingly use this time to hear form the various missional communities, to pray for them, prophesy over them, encourage them and ask for God's blessing on them. In this way we hope that the various smaller groups will feel part of the bigger community and the bigger community will feel part of the smaller groups.

We really hope that these changes will help us all connect with God and each other in an increasingly rich way... and that our lives continued to get shaped by Jesus in the process...

Everyone is welcome to join us as we explore life with God together.


Mondays

For most of the last two thousand years people have associated the word 'Church' with something on a Sunday - a service, a mass, a worship event, a teaching hour. As a result other things are also linked to the word - songs, hymns, buildings, pulpits, pews, priests or teachers, worship bands, liturgy... All of these are good things... but...

We want our church here in Twerton to be known for what happens on Mondays not Sundays.

On Mondays we are involved in God's mission. On Mondays we are praying and connecting with God, on our own and with others. On Mondays we are engaged with the problems of our neighbours and our friends. On Mondays we are wondering what God is prompting us to do or say or think about. On Mondays we are at work, or at home or at the school and we are aware that God is with us and that we represent him.

chippyOn Mondays we are pouring ourselves out for the sake of our world, trying to follow Jesus' example. On Mondays we are praying in the spirit as much as we can so as not to miss out on being a messenger of God's kingdom. On Mondays we are making decisions about how to live, how to act, how to think. On Mondays we are avoiding bad things and embracing good things. On Mondays we are with the poor.

On Mondays we are depending on God's grace for what we do, knowing that nothing we do with out him counts for much. On Mondays we are guiding our children and creating the right environment for them to grow up in. On Mondays we are spending our money wisely and giving our money away. On Mondays we are engaged in our world. On Mondays we welcome in the stranger and the lonely.

On Mondays we read the bible for our personal development and to feed our soul. On Mondays we reflect and sit and think. On Mondays we phone up our friends and eat with others. On Mondays we decide what to watch on TV and what not to watch. On Mondays we are grateful for all that God has done for us and prayerful for everything that is out of sorts in our lives. On Mondays we try to resist sin and when we sin we confess it.

On Mondays we laugh and joke. On Mondays we exercise. On Mondays we call in on those in need and cull up those who need a chat. On Mondays we take rest seriously and leave tomorrows worries to tomorrow. On Mondays we wake, we work, we play, we relax, we sleep. On Mondays we live life... life with Jesus...

Making Monday special is our aim.

And Sundays is another thing all together.

Check out this video... it's one guy's way of telling the story...

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The future's orange

orangepipsOver the next few months (and years) it is my hope that our church here in Twerton will learn to ‘be church’ in a completely new way. Instead of organising ourselves around our services and programmes we want to see what happens when we see ourselves primarily as people engaged on a mission.Read more


Jesus manifesto

Jesus mosaicThis was written by two great guys called Frank Viola and Leonard Sweet... enjoy it!

The centre and circumference of the Christian life is none other than the person of Christ. All other things, including things related to him and about him, are eclipsed by the sight of his peerless worth. Knowing Christ is Eternal Life. And knowing him profoundly, deeply, and in reality, as well as experiencing his unsearchable riches, is the chief pursuit of our lives, as it was for the first Christians. God is not so much about fixing things that have gone wrong in our lives as finding us in our brokenness and giving us Christ.Read more


Inside out

swingWhen we think of church many people instantly think of a building and the things that go on inside it. We want to change that and turn it on its head. We want everyone, when they think of St Michaels, to think instantly of people - people like themselves - people making a difference in the world.

We hope that St Michael's is different. Read more


A new website for a developing vision

mocWelcome to the new-look website of St Michael's church.  Things are changing in the way we see ourselves as a church here in Twerton and we hope that our new website will help us all as we build communities that reach out to our neighbours.

Although Christianity has been around for 2000 years the church is constantly being converted and renewed. All churches are different and you may be wondering what this one is like.

It’s not an easy question to answer.

Our church is a very varied group of people who are devoted to Jesus and who are committed to loving God and to loving our neighbours. Most churches organise themselves around their shared services or times of worship. We are increasingly trying to organise ourselves around being involved in God’s good purposes for the world.

This means that instead of being a church that is gathered to worship on Sundays we are a church that is sent out to make a difference in the world everyday of our lives.

Because we are all different characters, and have different interests and gifts, we join in with different things together. Some of us are trying to make a difference through connecting with young people through creative arts – dance, music, drama, art, etc. Others are enjoying being a community that serves our local community through a cafe and community centre on the High Street. Others again are trying to make a difference each week by helping out people with practical needs such as gardening or DIY. Others again are more focussed on the needs of older people.

All of us feel involved and all of us are doing our bit.

None of us feel we have life completely licked, but we are learning to trust God for everything good in life. When suffering comes, as it always does, we not only have each other but we are finding that God is with us too, sometimes healing us and at other times enabling other good things to come out of bad. He is faithful.

As Christians we are obviously focussing our lives on Jesus’ teaching and we believe that he is alive today, leading us, filling us, changing us and making us new.

We are also part of the Anglican Church (or Church of England) and this means that we are part of a worldwide community. We find that spiritual disciplines help us to ’stay on track’ and so we regularly pray together, break bread together (communion), celebrate together, eat together, play together, worship together, learn together and rest together. Other disciplines shape our lives too, such as serving, giving, silence, solitude, and confession and over time, if you joined us, you might notice us doing these things.

The main thing that motivates us is the love of God. Having experienced this for ourselves we want to share it with others.

If you want to find out more about us, come along and join us in living life together under Jesus’ direction…
Richard